This is a guest post by Aimee. She first planned to write this as a note on Facebook, but since the Blogger format is so much easier to read, we decided she should post here instead. Enjoy! (or not) ~Oscar
This is a
vent about garbage I’ve seen on Facebook lately; specifically about hypocrisy
and double standards directed at Christians.
I have friends that are not Christians, and friends that are, but have
very different views than mine. I have
never “unfriended” anyone because I disagreed with them, even when they've directly
attacked Believers in general, or even me personally. I also don’t “deny” anyone their
opinion. I ask questions and challenge
people’s opinions (which everyone has the right to do), but that is completely unrelated
to “allowing” someone to have an opinion.
When I do disagree (politely I might add) I get “unfriended” and
attacked; they throw insults at me, twist my words out of context, etc. I believe what I do and live my life the way
I do because it’s logical and makes sense to me. I have no problem with people asking me
questions or disagreeing with me. I do
have problems with people accusing me of things and calling me names without allowing me to defend myself or even allowing me to respond.
Believe it
or not, I never try to offend people by posting my bold views and
beliefs. I am specifically thoughtful
toward my atheist friends and those that I know have different views. Some may be offended by my beliefs themselves,
but I never intentionally set out to hurt people. Since some do not reciprocate that courtesy
and respect (they stereotype me and call me names), I feel free to politely defend
myself.
With that
said, a “friend” posted a short article about Christians boycotting Starbucks because Starbucks funds political campaigns that seek to legalize gay
marriage. Naturally, this gay “friend”
was upset about it. Fine, I have no
problem with that. She then called the
Christian group - Christian Ministries - “f*cking idiots” and all of the people
that commented said things like,
"christians" are stupid for going against a
company just because their [sic] pro same sex marriage.
First; what
if I called lesbians “f*cking idiots” because they are boycotting something,
like, oh let’s just say the Salvation Army? What if I said gay people were
stupid? I would get verbally attacked
and, on Facebook, probably “unfriended” by many people, Christians included. If I saw or heard someone else say that, I’d
confront them about it. I wouldn’t stereotype
a whole demographic and I certainly wouldn’t stoop to name-calling in
a childish attempt to make my point. For
example, I’m defending myself against the specific people directly in this
post, not the entire Gay and Lesbian Community.
I know several happy, tolerant, reasonable gay people; which by the way,
they don’t call people names. I would also like to point out that I’ve never
heard any professing Christian call anybody that is a non-Christian any name,
ever. I’ve been an active Christian for
about 12 years, attended 4 different churches in 4 different denominations, and
attended at least a dozen small group bible studies where no one was called any
name. So who is being intolerant
here? Who is making stereotypes? Who is bullying whom? Why is bigotry and intolerance towards
Christians acceptable? Why is hate speech
(yeah, I just said it) acceptable when it’s directed toward Christians?
Secondly,
does boycotting a company make you an “idiot” or “stupid”? One person posted,
What does coffee have to do with same sex
marriage?? If they support it OR not support it, does that affect their ability
to make coffee?
No one is arguing Starbucks' “ability”
to make coffee. “Ability” has nothing to
do with it. People choose to not support
companies financially, i.e. boycotting, because when they purchase that
overpriced cup of coffee, some of that money goes to support causes they don’t
support, such as gay marriage. So by
purchasing their product you are indirectly supporting causes you don’t believe
in. For example, we no longer financially
support the Girl Scouts because of their partnerships with Planned Parenthood
and other Pro-Choice organizations. Does
that make me a “f*king idiot” or “stupid”?
I think it’s smart. I think it’s
illogical to say you don’t support something, yet give money to organizations
that do support those causes, whatever those causes may be. That would be stupid; saying, for example, that
I don’t support Planned Parenthood and then giving the Girls Scouts money that
they turn around and give to Planned Parenthood.
Third, what’s
with all the anger? I get it that in
this example lesbians and/or liberals are offended that people who don’t support their
lifestyle and are voicing their opinion; that happens to Christians all the
time. Christians experience intolerance, hate speech,
violence, loss of Constitutional freedoms, and (mostly in other countries) even death for our beliefs daily.
Again,
I understand anger or frustration of a person’s life-style being criticized. In regards to this facebook post, why is name
calling necessary? One person on this
topic did say,
Either way, it's a
nice thing to economically support people who support your community.
I appreciate and agree with them on that point. However the next sentence they said was,
And, ultimately, if I can piss a bunch of
fundamentalist christians off with my coffee, then so much the better
Again, who
is being intolerant here? What would
their reaction be if I bragged that I enjoy “pissing off lesbians”? I would never say that because I don’t
believe it, but what a double standard and hypocrisy. By the way, someone's support of Starbucks, and what day they choose to buy coffee, doesn't faze me in the least.
Interestingly, the next day another friend of mine on Facebook, who happens to be a Christian,
posted that some Anti-Gun Organizations are planning a boycott Starbucks, yet
again, on Valentine’s Day. Did she call
them “f*king idiots”, or rant about how “stupid” anti-gun people were? Nope. She
just said that since she’s pro-gun-ownership, that she would make a point to
buy a latte on Valentine’s Day.
My point
here is that I don’t hate people who boycott things I believe in; it’s a right
and freedom we all enjoy in this country.
I think demonstrations and boycotts are very healthy and civil methods
to stand up against or for causes and companies. I don’t begrudge people this freedom or right
and I’d really appreciate if others would reciprocate the courtesy.
Fourthly,
the people in this discussion are hypocrites.
I know hypocrisy is the “go-to” argument against Christians, but I’ve
actually found the opposite to be closer to the truth. Liberals tend to be more hypocritical and
intolerant of other people’s views.
One commenter posted,
No one
should pick up a freaken [sic] torch and march around just cus [sic] you don’t like it. Some people are just so stupid.
I am not calling the gay and lesbian community “stupid”, but
going along with her argument, she is, because the Gay and Lesbian Community
often calls for boycotts and demonstrations, such as in October 2010 in San
Diego against hotels for financially supporting Prop. 8. The Gay and Lesbian Community also boycotted A1 Storage in 2008. They boycotted the Salvation Army in December of 2011. There are so many more; Target, Best Buy, Victoria’s Cake Cottage, Coors…
the list goes on and on. To take it even
further, gay and lesbian couples have sued private businesses, such as this Vermont Inn, for not hosting a lesbian wedding on their private property (Freedom of association, anyone?). Where were their anti-lesbian posts for
these? Why didn't I see them calling
other gay and lesbian people “f*king idiots” and “stupid”? Why are they criticizing Christians and calling
us names for doing far less than what gay and lesbian groups do? I think it’s pretty obvious that calling
Christian groups stupid for boycotting Starbucks, and/or claiming that Christians in
general are stupid for doing so, while gay and lesbian groups boycott and even
sue private businesses wantonly, is completely hypocritical.
Lastly, I sincerely hope that I don’t get “unfriended” by
anyone, I think that would be drastic and intolerant, but I think it says more
about them than it does about me. After
all, I didn’t “unfriend” anyone when they tossed around insults, intolerance
and bigotry.
I have no problem with people commenting or disagreeing with
me, however I expect a polite conversation (no name calling) with evidence to
support any claims you make. I expect
people to think about what they believe before commenting and not just express
pure emotion. However, if that is
impossible, feel free to prove me right with even more stereotypes, hypocrisy
and double standards. I hope we can
discuss, question, and challenge each other’s beliefs in a polite manner, that’s
how we change or solidify our beliefs.
Thanks for reading; happy, logical, and polite facebooking!